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Problems After Group Sex
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Dear Veronika!
I am very open-minded and at least until now I have not been a slave to any prejudices. After a long-term relationship, I married a man I was truly in love with. Our marriage only refreshed the already good sex. When my husband suggested we try group sex, I did not hesitate for a moment and without any doubt agreed to limitless games in four. Our partners were more acquaintances than friends, an interesting young couple we met on vacation. However, the reason I am reaching out to you is that on that occasion I enjoyed like never before in the marital bedroom. What that attractive young man provided for me cannot be compared to anything in my, I admit, quite tumultuous life.
I still love my husband, but I often fantasize about that experience. I would like to repeat it, but I do not dare to suggest it. I admit I would have nothing against sex for two, but not with my husband, rather with that young man. Do you think there is something wrong with me? Should I talk about this with my husband?
Grateful Maja
Dear Maja!
In life, there are simply plenty of things you will regret whether you do them or not. One of those things is what is happening to you; you regret trying extramarital sex because it gave you a difficult-to-achieve dimension, and as a consequence, you also regret that you cannot repeat it. The same will probably happen with a new similar attempt. Therefore, you must weigh your priorities carefully, you must determine what is more significant and what is less significant to you, and also be careful not to hurt the person you care about.
I do not dare to express my decisive opinion, but I think your husband would agree to a repeat of what was done, so there is no reason not to offer him such a proposal "wrapped in cellophane and with a flower." On the other hand, I would not advise you to engage in a one-sided action, or betrayal, as it could have a devastating effect on your obviously successful marriage. At the same time, be happy that in these difficult times you have a strong desire for sex, and indulge in it in the quantities and quality available to you. Good luck.
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