Sexual therapist
There is a lot of talk about sex, but few ask what really troubles them. There is too much shame, fear of judgment, or simply the feeling that we are the only ones with that question. And we almost never are.
In this section, the sexual therapist answers questions from members, openly and without judgment. Why does desire fade over time, is it normal to fantasize about something we would never do, how to talk to a partner about what turns us on, and all those uncertainties that are easier to type into a search engine than to say out loud.
The answers are honest and grounded, written to help rather than to teach from a height. If you have a question that has been bothering you for a long time, there is a good chance that someone has already asked the same, and that the answer is right here.
Inspired by real encounters between our members.
Problems After Group Sex
I am very open-minded and at least until now I have not been a slave to any prejudices. After a long-term relationship, I married a man I was truly in love with. Our marriage only refreshed the already good sex. When my husband suggested we try group sex, I did not hesitate for a moment and without any doubt agreed to limitless games in four.
The Problem of Insatiable Sexual Desire
Dear Veronika! Reading your column carefully, I decided to reach out to you for advice. I am 30 years old, still unmarried, and, in my own opinion, I fall into the category of nymphomaniacs. Since my earliest youth, I realized that I am crazy about men to whom I have recklessly surrendered, often not hesitating to initiate sex myself. I have generally enjoyed my sexual escapades immensely, alternating between a three-digit number of partners, better said "love stallions," with whom I have only actually dated a few. Most of my lovers insisted on something much deeper and more serious, primarily because of my romantic skills that even a first-class courtesan would not be ashamed of. I am currently in a serious relationship with a man who offers me marriage, but I cannot decide on it, as I have already cheated on him several times with completely random guys. I do not have the courage to confess my sick insatiability for sexual desire towards members of the opposite sex because it seems to me that no one would make a marital vow with such a person. What should I do?
Problem with the Mistress
Dear Veronika! I kindly ask you to interpret my, at least it seems to me, quite tangled life and sexual reality. Namely, after five successful and fruitful years of marriage full of understanding and love, I don't even know how I got involved in a same-sex relationship with an unmarried woman in my thirties. Our very passionate moments together soon turned into a completely frustrating state for me, due to my partner's possessiveness. She has, in fact, begun to insist on non-sensual companionship, which soon became suspicious to my closest surroundings, except of course to my husband. My mother even caught us, deliberately, "in flagranti". From that moment on, all my lesbian passion has faded, and now, three months later, I have to occasionally literally endure the outpourings of tenderness from my former friend. My husband, fortunately, still knows nothing, and I would like, primarily because I sincerely love him, for it to remain so, although if I knew everything would be alright, I would prefer to confess everything to him. I hope you will respond to me promptly. Jolanda
I Am Cheating on My Husband with His Brother
Dear Veronika! I am reaching out sincerely hoping that you will help me resolve my doubts and fears. I am a happily married thirty-year-old woman, living in a truly harmonious marriage with a man who provides me with both material and spiritual security; he is also caring and gentle. Sexually, even after nine years together, we are still attracted to each other and in sync. You might be wondering where the problem lies? The problem is, and it's a big one (literally and metaphorically), with my husband's younger brother who has been living with us since he started college. About six months ago, returning home unexpectedly, I caught him watching a porn video and masturbating his exceptionally large penis. As if enchanted, I approached him and took him in my mouth, then started wildly sucking and then riding him. Our connection has lasted since then, and on my part, it is so passionate that I am literally burning. I adore giving oral to my brother-in-law's huge thing and jumping on it, but on the other hand, my conscience is tearing me apart for cheating on the man I truly love, unfortunately, in the most brutal and insidious way. I ask you for advice, although I probably can already guess what the best solution is. Tina
I Can't Satisfy Her
A 24-year-old man who was always sexually confident and had no shortage of partners falls deeply in love with Tea, but once they finally try to have sex he loses his erection every time; after nearly six months of this he asks Veronika for advice, and she reassures him the cause is psychological, not physical.
My girlfriend's mom is hitting on me
Dear Veronika! I am 23 years old and I have been in a happy relationship with my girlfriend for five years. Everything is fine between us, and I would like it to stay that way, so I am reaching out to you. In June of this year, the two of us went to the sea with her mom.
I Slept with My Stepdaughter
Dear Veronika, I am grateful in advance that you will help me resolve probably the greatest dilemma I have faced in my life, which is, of course, of an intimate nature. What happened to me is, namely, probably the worst thing that can happen to an adult man, whose honesty is the main trait he prides himself on, passionate sex with the daughter of the woman I love and with whom I have a successful marriage.
Unhappily Married!
Dear Madam! I am 32 years old, I have blonde hair, I am very gentle and emotional, unhappily and tragically married. I no longer love her because she cruelly cheated on me while I was at the front. She was my first experience that I wanted to enrich in marriage regarding sex, but she betrayed me.
Is There No Hope for Oral Sex?
Dear Madam! I believe I need your help, which is why I am reaching out to you, as I have lost all hope of finding a woman to satisfy me orally. So far, I have placed ads in several erotic magazines looking for a woman who enjoys oral sex.
Wife in the Embrace of Another Man
Dear Veronika, I would like you to give your comment on something that is rarely written about. I will describe my own experience, that is, an event I went through, which has gradually become an important part of my sexual imagination, partly real and partly in my mind.
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